Best Friend

An open letter to my ‘High School Best Friend’

Calling you my ‘high school best friend’ doesn’t really feel right. It doesn’t really fit. It doesn’t sum everything up and I feel like it kind of discounts the friendship that we had. You were my high school best friend, my college best friend, my always there for me best friend. You are so much more to me than my ‘high school best friend’ but I can’t find a word that really sums up what you were.

I’m not exactly sure when things started changing, but they did. We are now in two different places in our lives. Not in a bad way; just different. But I don’t want to talk about that right now. I want to talk about the good times.

Thank you

I don’t think I ever thanked you for everything you did, and I want to. Thank you for coming over at any hour of the day or night when I needed a friend. Thank you for needing me as a friend too. Thank you for making me sandwiches and chocolate milk after school. For pretending to study with me.  For taking classes just so we would have them together. For listening to me complain. For listening to me cry. For always taking my phone calls. For (almost) always taking my side. For telling me when I was being stupid and why you wouldn’t take my side.  For writing me notes. For picking me up for school when my parents took my car. For buying me taco bell. For driving around with me blasting music. For going on adventures. For sharing your drama with me. For all the girls nights and best friend dates. For being there through college. For celebrating my accomplishments. For hating everyone I hated. For visiting me at school. For not judging me for eating an entire cake, but eating it with me. For bringing me to your house. For coming to mine. For watching movies with me. For dancing around the room (badly) with me. For laughing with me until we cried. For ugly crying with me. For knowing me. For taking a million pictures. For making a million memories. For being there.

It’s oKay

Things may be different now. We aren’t very close anymore. We grew up and grew apart. It happens to people all the time, and it’s okay. I don’t have any hard feelings, and I hope you don’t either; because that’s the last thing I want.

I will never forget all of the good times we had. My life would not be the same without having had you in it. I have so many great memories with you, and I wouldn’t change that for the world.

Always

We may not be best friends anymore but I will always care about you, I will always answer your texts, I will always come pick you up from a party that got a little too crazy and I will always love you. You were one of the most important people in my life and I wouldn’t be who I am without you.

Sincerely,

Your ‘high school best friend’

Job Search

How to survive the post-college job search

It’s about that time of year when graduations are in full swing. For college graduates, that also means it’s time to begin the job search, find a career, and enter the “real” world. If you’re lucky, then you already have a job that you will be starting following graduation. If you’re like the other  86% of graduating college students (according to a study that you can find here) then you’re still searching.

Following my December 2014 graduation (I graduated early because I’m an overachiever, no big deal) I began working for a company that I had interned for the previous summer. However, it was not a job that I could make a career out of, so the job search continued.

Over the course of about a year I applied to at least 200 jobs, had seven phone interviews, four in-person interviews, two Skype interviews, and one temporary job, before I was offered my current position. Even though it  was not ideal, I did learn a few things in the process.

10 tips on surviving the Application/interview process

  1. Choose a few key words that will bring up positions in your field. Try to keep it broad. That way more positions come up in your search. The more you search for jobs the easier it will be to figure out what those key words are and what jobs you actually want to be applying for.
  2. Sign up for Indeed and other job search sites. You can set it up so that they will email you about job postings in your field. Some will let you create a profile that you can then use to apply for jobs directly through the site (cutting out a little bit of extra work).
  3. Unless you are absolutely set on working/living in a certain area, don’t limit yourself by location. Moving halfway across the country for a job could be an adventure.
  4. You don’t necessarily have to change-up your resume and cover letter for every application. Save a few different versions for the different types of positions you are applying for (geared towards marketing, admin, web, etc.). Then you don’t have to spend the time rewriting/editing for every single application.
  5. Try to set aside a certain amount of time every week for job applications. I usually tried to spend 1-2 hours a week applying for jobs (if you have time to do more I definitely recommend it)
  6. Don’t be discouraged by rejection letters. Everyone gets them and it doesn’t mean that you won’t find a job. It just means that job wasn’t for you. I’m still getting rejection letters and I stopped applying for jobs six months ago.
  7. Pray. A lot. Seriously, that is one of the few things that helped me from becoming completely discouraged.
  8. Don’t stress too much about interviews. The whole purpose of the interview is for them to get to know you. Once you know yourself, your skills, and your professional goals, they get easier.
  9. Do research on the companies you are interviewing with and the position you are interviewing for before speaking with anyone. It will show in the interview.
  10. Keep sending out applications. The more positions you apply for the more opportunities you have to find a job.

Don’t give up

Applying for jobs is time-consuming, frustrating, and seemingly never-ending but I promise you, once you find your dream job, it’s worth all the hours spent applying for all the duds.