Best Friend

An open letter to my ‘High School Best Friend’

Calling you my ‘high school best friend’ doesn’t really feel right. It doesn’t really fit. It doesn’t sum everything up and I feel like it kind of discounts the friendship that we had. You were my high school best friend, my college best friend, my always there for me best friend. You are so much more to me than my ‘high school best friend’ but I can’t find a word that really sums up what you were.

I’m not exactly sure when things started changing, but they did. We are now in two different places in our lives. Not in a bad way; just different. But I don’t want to talk about that right now. I want to talk about the good times.

Thank you

I don’t think I ever thanked you for everything you did, and I want to. Thank you for coming over at any hour of the day or night when I needed a friend. Thank you for needing me as a friend too. Thank you for making me sandwiches and chocolate milk after school. For pretending to study with me.  For taking classes just so we would have them together. For listening to me complain. For listening to me cry. For always taking my phone calls. For (almost) always taking my side. For telling me when I was being stupid and why you wouldn’t take my side.  For writing me notes. For picking me up for school when my parents took my car. For buying me taco bell. For driving around with me blasting music. For going on adventures. For sharing your drama with me. For all the girls nights and best friend dates. For being there through college. For celebrating my accomplishments. For hating everyone I hated. For visiting me at school. For not judging me for eating an entire cake, but eating it with me. For bringing me to your house. For coming to mine. For watching movies with me. For dancing around the room (badly) with me. For laughing with me until we cried. For ugly crying with me. For knowing me. For taking a million pictures. For making a million memories. For being there.

It’s oKay

Things may be different now. We aren’t very close anymore. We grew up and grew apart. It happens to people all the time, and it’s okay. I don’t have any hard feelings, and I hope you don’t either; because that’s the last thing I want.

I will never forget all of the good times we had. My life would not be the same without having had you in it. I have so many great memories with you, and I wouldn’t change that for the world.

Always

We may not be best friends anymore but I will always care about you, I will always answer your texts, I will always come pick you up from a party that got a little too crazy and I will always love you. You were one of the most important people in my life and I wouldn’t be who I am without you.

Sincerely,

Your ‘high school best friend’

Moving out

Moving out – an adventure in adulting

SO it’s been a while since I’ve given an update on my adulting journey, which is pretty bad because I definitely said we would figure out adulthood together. BUT it’s okay because I’m going to back track and give you some tips on what I’ve learned in the last six months of adulting.

In January I was offered a job as a web content and project manager with a contracting company with a salary that would allow me to move out of my parents house. BLESS.

I moved into my apartment on March 1st and it has definitely been an incredible, sometimes scary, but mostly really fun adventure.

Here are some things that I’ve learned as I went through this HUGE step of growing up.

  1. Finding an apartment is hard. There will be terrible reviews on literally every apartment you look into, and some apartments that have great reviews actually aren’t that great in person. (My apartment building had reviews about crazy bug infestations and I’ve seen maybe five bugs in the three months that I’ve lived there, so look at the reviews but don’t let them make the decision for you).
  2. Take tours of at least two, preferably more, apartment complexes because then you have something that you have seen to make comparisons.
  3. Apartment location is important. Pick somewhere close to work and close to fun things, there is a happy medium.
  4. Tell everyone you know (friends, family, parents friends) that you are moving out because a lot of them will donate furniture or other things that could come in handy. The only piece of furniture in my entire apartment that I purchased myself was a shelf from Target for $17.99 (thanks everyone who donated furniture to my apartment).
  5. Be nice to your friends and family because then they will help you move (unless you can afford a moving company, you high roller). Trying to get a couch, love seat and queen size bed etc. up to my sixth floor apartment myself would have been a show.
  6. Make sure you know who you’re going to live with (if you decide to have a roommate) and that you won’t kill each other after a week. Don’t live with someone that you aren’t sure about just because they want to live with you. JUST SAY NO.
  7. Living with your best friend can be really fun. We have had many Girl’s nights drinking wine and watching Gilmore Girls in the last three months. Girl’s night in your own apartment feels a lot more fun than girl’s night at your parents’ house, just FYI.
  8. If you plan on getting an animal be aware that they are very cute, but also very expensive. Charlie (my 3 month old kitten) is absolutely precious but I spend way too much money on her. It’s like having a child except you don’t have to hire a babysitter.
  9. Doing the dishes sucks, but you have to do them because when the sink is full you can’t fill up your Brita.
  10. Buy toilet paper, paper towels, and trash bags in bulk because nothing is worse than taking out the full trash bag and realizing you now have to go to the store to buy more, or realizing you’ve run out of toilet paper after it’s already too late.
  11. You will get excited by really lame adult things. I was so excited when I got my vacuum that I moved all the furniture and vacuumed literally everywhere.
  12. Invest in Amazon Prime. You won’t want to go to the store and the free two day shipping is absolutely worth the $99 a year.
  13. You don’t actually need cable. My roommate and I have Netflix, Hulu and Amazon Prime and between the three of those we can watch almost anything.
  14. Bills suck, but you can’t forget to pay them. I have an app called Mint Bills to keep track of all of mine because otherwise I would be evicted for forgetting to pay rent.
  15. You can’t put off grocery shopping forever, ordering pizza every night gets really expensive. It’s also super unhealthy.
  16. Always keep a bottle of wine in the apartment. You never know when you might need it.
  17. Budgeting is important.
  18. You’ll have moments where you’ll really miss your family. You might think you’re so over living with your parents that you won’t ever miss it but there will come a night where you just want to go home. It happens and it’s okay.
  19. Showing off your apartment to people is really fun.
  20. Don’t stress about all your new responsibilities and how you’re going to take care of them, you’ll figure it out.

There are a lot of other things that I’ve learned over the past few months and I’m sure I’ll learn more but the most important thing I’ve learned through my intense immersion in adulting is that no one actually knows how to adult, they’re all just pretending.

DISCLAIMER: I am not at all qualified to give you any real life advice so take all of this with a grain (or 70) of salt.

 

The soundtrack to my life

People always say that they wish they had a soundtrack to their lives. But, if you ask me, we do.

The beginning of most of our soundtracks probably sound pretty similar. Mine is full of almost every Disney song in existence and TV show theme songs like Sesame Street and Barney.

As we get older our soundtracks become more personalized and carry more meaning.

There are songs that will remind you of middle school and dancing around your room with a hair bush microphone. There will also be songs that will remind you of big things in your life like graduating from high school, or little things like driving around with the windows down when you first got your license.

The coolest part about having our own soundtracks is that, although we get to choose some of the songs, a lot of the songs choose us.

There are hundreds of songs on my soundtrack. Some remind me of happy times, some remind me of heartbreak, some remind me of adventures with my best friend and some remind me of friendships that no longer exist. Music has a way of making you feel things. Sad things, happy things, great things.

Your soundtrack is special. No one in the world has the same soundtrack, though they may have a few of the same songs. The unique combination of songs, and the way the same exact line in a song can mean something so drastically different to two different people is something that only music can do, and I think that’s pretty incredible.

If you put together the soundtrack of your life what would be on it?

See a few of the songs on my soundtrack below:

  1. A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes – Cinderella
  2.  Honey I’m Home – Shania Twain
  3. Bouncing off the Ceiling – A*Teens
  4. Hips Don’t Lie – Shakira
  5. Waldorf Worldwide – Good Charlotte
  6. Defying Gravity – Wicked
  7. Days Go By – Keith Urban
  8. Beautiful Soul – Jesse McCartney
  9. When You Look Me in the Eyes – Jonas Brothers
  10. Pocketful of Sunshine – Natasha Bedingfield
  11. True Friend – Hannah Montana
  12. Today was a Fairytale – Taylor Swift
  13. Before the Storm – Jonas Brothers feat. Miley Cyrus
  14. Love Like Woe – The Ready Set
  15. Come on Get Higher – Matt Nathanson
  16. We’re All In This Together – High School Musical
  17. Wherever I Go – Hannah Montana
  18. If it Means a lot to You – A Day to Remember
  19. Oh Darling – Plug in the Stereo feat.Cady Groves
  20. My Heart Will Go On – Celine Dion
  21. All Too Well – Taylor Swift
  22. Day One – Matthew West
Adulting

Adulting – Is it even possible?

Adulting (verb), for those of you who would like a definition it is the act of being a real adult, paying all your own bills, living on your own and somewhat having a handle on your life.

Trying to figure out how to be an adult is one of the most difficult things I have ever done in my long (haha) 22 years of life.

I always heard a lot from my parents about how important college was in relation to the rest of my life but no one ever told me that college was the easy part of growing up.

It’s coming up on my one year anniversary of being a college graduate. You would think that would be exciting, but to me it’s like a ticking time bomb.

I never imagined that at 22 this is where I would be, in my parents’ house, working as a legal assistant at a law firm and no closer to moving out than I was 6 months ago.

When I was little I always imagined that by the time I graduated from college I would have an apartment, maybe be engaged, or at least have a boyfriend (LOL) and have my dream job.

Getting a handle on this “adulting” thing has been 5,000 times harder than I ever imagined.

I like to call myself a “fake adult” because I do pay my own bills and have a full time job but I still live in my parents house and I still cringe at the question “What do you want to do?”.

Obviously I have some sort of idea of what I would like to do career wise. After spending 3 1/2 years studying communications I would like to put that knowledge to use, but how?

I’m sure that’s the question almost all recent grads are asking themselves. How do I make something I studied in a classroom into a career?

I bet you thought I would have an answer. I don’t. But I invite you to follow along as I try to figure it out. We can learn how to adult together.